A psychological model that’s built out of three individual love-related models and three love style models. Models includes:
Sternberg: Triangular Theory of Love
Gottman: Gottman Method
Social Exchange Theory
Lee: Love Style
Bartholomew & Horowitz: Adult Attachment Theory
Gary Chapman: Love Language
| Lee Style \ Attachment | Secure | Avoidant | Anxious | Fearful |
|---|
| Passion | Deep Affection | Distance Control | Intense | Entangled |
| Game | Playful | Hot-and-Cold | Testing | Self-Protective |
| Friendship | Stable | Emotionally Distant | Dependent | Withdrawn |
| Practical | Grounded | Rational Distance | Urgent Need for Stability | Cautious |
| Mania | Deep Emotional Investment | Unrestrained | Obsessive Passion | Repetitive & Unstable |
| Altruism | Accepting | Detached | Over-Giving | Difficult to Get Close To |
| Lee Style \ Attachment | Secure | Avoidant | Anxious | Fearful |
|---|
| Passion | High Physical TouchWords of Affirmation | Quality TimeLow Physical Touch | Words of AffirmationHigh Physical Touch | Quality TimeActs of Service |
| Game | Words of AffirmationQuality Time | Quality TimeWords of Affirmation | Words of AffirmationQuality Time | Acts of ServiceQuality Time |
| Friendship | Quality TimeActs of Service | Acts of ServiceQuality Time | Words of AffirmationQuality Time | Acts of ServiceQuality Time |
| Practical | Acts of ServiceQuality Time | Acts of ServiceQuality Time | Words of AffirmationActs of Service | Acts of ServiceQuality Time |
| Mania | High Physical TouchQuality Time | Acts of ServiceLow Physical Touch | Words of AffirmationHigh Physical Touch | Acts of ServiceQuality Time |
| Altruism | Acts of ServiceQuality Time | Quality TimeActs of Service | Acts of ServiceWords of Affirmation | Quality TimeActs of Service |
| Lee Style \ Attachment | Secure | Avoidant | Anxious | Fearful |
|---|
| Passion | Dolphin | Cat | Peacock | Hedgehog |
| Game | Otter | Fox | Raccoon | Octopus |
| Friendship | Golden Retriever | Turtle | Penguin | Ferret |
| Practical | Rhinoceros | Owl | Beaver | Deer |
| Mania | Wolf | Horse | Swan | Lynx |
| Altruism | Elephant | Sloth | Hamster | Snow Rabbit |
| Love Type | Components |
|---|
| Liking | Intimacy |
| Infatuation | Passion |
| Empty Love | Commitment |
| Romantic Love | Intimacy + Passion |
| Companionate Love | Intimacy + Commitment |
| Fatuous Love | Passion + Commitment |
| Consummate Love | Intimacy + Passion + Commitment |
| Love Type | Animal Archetypes |
|---|
| Liking | Turtle · Sloth · Snow Rabbit |
| Infatuation | Hedgehog · Fox · Octopus |
| Empty Love | Cat · Ferret · Owl · Deer |
| Romantic Love | Peacock · Penguin · Swan · Otter |
| Companionate Love | Golden Retriever · Rhinoceros · Hamster |
| Fatuous Love | Beaver · Wolf |
| Consummate Love | Dolphin · Elephant |
| Liking | Infatuation | Empty | Romantic | Companionate | Fatuous | Consummate |
|---|
| Liking | 95 | 55 | 60 | 80 | 90 | 70 | 85 |
| Infatuation | 55 | 95 | 45 | 90 | 65 | 85 | 80 |
| Empty | 60 | 45 | 95 | 65 | 85 | 90 | 75 |
| Romantic | 80 | 90 | 65 | 95 | 85 | 80 | 90 |
| Companionate | 90 | 65 | 85 | 85 | 95 | 75 | 90 |
| Fatuous | 70 | 85 | 90 | 80 | 75 | 95 | 85 |
| Consummate | 85 | 80 | 75 | 90 | 90 | 85 | 100 |
| No Horsemen | Criticism | Defensiveness | Stonewalling | Contempt |
|---|
| No Horsemen | 100 | 85 | 80 | 75 | 60 |
| Criticism | 85 | 80 | 70 | 65 | 55 |
| Defensiveness | 80 | 70 | 75 | 65 | 50 |
| Stonewalling | 75 | 65 | 65 | 70 | 45 |
| Contempt | 60 | 55 | 50 | 45 | 40 |
| Component | Weight |
|---|
| Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love – Compatibility Score | 30% |
| Gottman Method (Four Horsemen) – Relationship Stability Score | 30% |
| Social Exchange Theory – Perceived Equity & Satisfaction | 25% |
| Animal Archetypes × Seven Love Types Model | 15% |
| Total | 100% |
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